Some may think that being retired is all fun and games, but I am here to set the record straight. For forty years I worked! As a child I sold the Sunday paper door to door, I had my own gardening service in high school, I worked in restaurants, I picked up garbage and dug holes for septic tanks. I worked in factories, I was a psychologist with my own practice, and I was a
teacher. I retired in 2002 and wound up in therapy. Two of my best friends died, my mother and step father died and found myself alone.
The comfort of being around other workers and clients was gone. I went through a period that was like being a Zombie. Now I know some of you will say that I should join groups like the senior center and clubs and groups that throw people together. That felt (and still feels) like I was such a looser. Those people are old, I would say to myself. I will feel like an outsider, I may not be accepted.
A lot of water has passed under the bridge since then. I am active as a potter, I travel in our RV with my wife, I ski in the winter, and I audit classes at the local university. I am still not content with my life but I am confident that I am adjusting.
I am sure that there are other retired people who feel vital and alive and unused and wasted. I know that there are alternatives and those who want to help. I am hoping that, by sharing my thoughts and feelings that you people will step up and help. When people reach their 60s they do not go to Mars! They do not run out to buy rocking chairs, and they do not go softly into the night!
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Just about every church I've been involved in has at least a substantial cadre of people just like you. Is it a Boomer thing? You people just don't go quietly into the good night. Frankly, as one who always viewed retirement as that time in my life when I finally don't have to do anything, you guys are messing with my worldview.
It makes me wonder how my generation will face retirement. Will we learn from yours and continue to grow as people or will we spend the remainder of our days playing video games? By the way, have you considered getting a Wii?
I think you are doing great! You seem to be managing to balance all the elements of your life pretty well, including exercize, rest, time with family and friends, hobby, intellectual pursuits, and just having fun. Plus, you are very loved!
Vera
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